Choices.......

I have been giving a lot of thought (as I do) to the subject of 'choice'. Now professionally, my aim for my clients is to realise, acknowledge and accept that they have 'choice' in EVERYTHING. Once they have been empowered in this way I encourage them to use this human right of choice more and more until it becomes a way of life (which should have been in place from the very beginning, but due to circumstances during formative years has often been denied).

We have choices in absolutely everything, not just everyday but practically every minute of our lives from the minor choices of tea or coffee (or ribena, hot or cold in my case) to the more serious ones of shall run this red light, have another glass of wine, smoke or self-harm in any other way. These I think are the choices that we all know we have but what of the 'grey area' decisions we make (these are the ones that aren't cut and dried, not black and white cases such as about relationships ("I can't leave her/him cos i'd feel so guilty", "I can't do this/that cos so and so wouldn't like it") WAKE UP people! and get real - there's no such word as can't (unless it's an impossiblity) so use 'correct language' and say 'I DON'T WANT TO'!) we are all self-responisble. This means we can only control the way WE feel OURSELVES we cannot control the way another person feels, so self-responsibility all the way.

Let's take this further dear reader......... the cards that life deal us are a mixed bunch aren't they? Some good some bad and believe me everyone has a mixed bunch, thugh it may not seem so from the outside. How often do we hear people moaning about 'if only' this/that and all the other 'woe is me' stuff. Some people choose to suffer for literally decades at times "what did I ever do to deserve ....?", "why me.....?", AAAAARGH!!!!! All this wonderful energy being wasted on such negative thoughts, now if these people put this energy into "right, what CAN I do in this situation....?" and "how can I make this situation better...?" - CHOICES dear friends, we all choose how we feel, no one and nothing can MAKE you feel anything at all, it's only how you CHOOSE to feel in any given situation. Once this is recognised and taken on board the quality of life becomes a lot better and in turn we all become happier.

Taking this even further and pushing the limits a little here, I think we all make the supreme choice before we come into this world as to the life we are about to live. I fully believe we choose our lives and famillies to learn certain lessons along the way and for this very reason we ought not to waste our time and energy wishing things were different and actually deal with the situation in which lessons may be learnt. There's no such thing as coincidence my friends, everything happens for a reason. Though it may at times be difficult if we try and embrace whatever is thrown at us in life and do what we can with it we find that we soon pass on to something different, if we struggle against it then it seems to go on forever because we are just not dealing with it properly.

So be happy people and remember you are not responsible for other's stuff and feelings only your own and you have the right to do things others may disapprove of so enjoy!!!